Friday, August 17, 2007

my Apple today......permata hati ayah; mama...

Mlm tadi farhan dah membuatkan kesabaran aku di tahap yg maxima aku rasa...tah mcmana x bleh control....akhirnya hinggap juga tgn aku ke muka dan tgnnye.......mmg geram sgt...sbbnya...kitorg tgh sibuk packing brg (dlm bilik around 11pm..dah siap2 nk tido pun..) utk my hb nk ke penang awal pagi ni...dan bersiap utk balik ke bangi ptg nnt...yg dia plak sibuk nk biskut oreo tuh...ok ler..aku pun layan le..siap ckp "erm..farhan suka ke biskut coklat ni...mkn tau jgn buang2 ye..(mmg his fav la..)sblm tu puas dah ajak dua beradik ni tido, last2 main kejar2..siap angah pun join...tu yg amik keputusan packing jgk tu..

so, tgh2 sibuk pack ni..tetiba dia nak biskut lagi...dan tiba2 jgk...dia teraburkan pecah2kan biskut tu atas toto nk tido dia...ok la dah sound ckp farhan x moh la mcm tuh...pastu dia buat lagi...hiiii mmg nk kena la...apa lagi nangis x hingat la dia sampai muntah....siap aku n ayah dia pun dah bebel kat dia..mencabar sungguh...terigt kisah paku....tapi tu la cabaran jadi ibubapa ni...kita yg patutnya jadi role-model kat depa...tapi kkdg tu payah sbb mmg kanak2 seusia farhan kalu aktif tu kena byk la sabarnye...ada saje aktiviti yg nk dibuatnye...bckp kemain bijak kalah org tua...tapi kkkg tu geram jer ngn kereaktifannya...sambil bersihkan kesan habuk biskut tu...aku sempat ckp kat dia..."farhan syg mama tak....kalu syg nape xdgr ckp mama ni....lps ni mama xnak dah syg farhan...."" huwaa lps tu aku yg sebak...pehtu opah dia dtg terus pujuk farhan, bwk dia turun minum makan sume..and again...dia mengomel2 ngn paksu dia...pasal game la kete la...bla..bla..then sume org pun offer dia tido sama...kec aku...

ya allah, kuatkan la semangat aku utk jadi ibu yg terbaik buat anak2ku ini....amin,...

so for those who r becoming a parents...these are the tips for guiding us...

We've all seen them: the out-of-control toddler hurling handfuls of sand at the park; the whiny-voiced 3-year-old begging for candy in the grocery line; the sassy 7-year-old yelling "you can't make me!" at the restaurant. And we've privately dissed their parents, reassuring ourselves that we'd never be such a wimp if our child was terrorizing the playground or disrupting everyone's dinner. But then it happens: the massive meltdown that takes you completely by surprise. And suddenly you are that parent — the one flailing to figure out what to do. The truth is, every child presents discipline challenges at every age, and it's up to us to figure out how to handle them.

Why is discipline such a big dilemma? Because it feels like a tightrope act. On one side there's the peril of permissiveness — no one wants to raise a brat. On the other side there's the fear of over-control — who wants to be the hardliner raising cowed, sullen kids? What we need is a comfortable middle ground to ensure that our little ones grow up to be respectful, caring, and well behaved.

First, the ground rules

To set the stage for discipline success, here are the bottom-line rules many experts agree on:

1. We're all in this together. Right from the start, teach your kids that your family is a mutual support system, meaning that everyone pitches in. Even a baby can learn to "help" you lift her by reaching out her arms, says Madelyn Swift, founder and director of Childright and author of Discipline for Life, Getting It Right With Children.

2. Respect is mutual. One of the most common complaints parents and kids have about each other is "You're not listening." Set a good example early on: When your child tries to tell you something, stop what you're doing, focus your attention, and listen. Later you can require the same courtesy from her.

3. Consistency is king.
One good way to raise a child with emotional strength? Be consistent and unwavering about rules and chores, says Harvard professor Dan Kindlon, author of Too Much of a Good Thing. Even if you pick just one chore to insist on, your child will be better off, Kindlon says. "Being firm and consistent teaches your child that you care enough about him to expect responsible behavior."

4. Life's not always fair. We're so afraid of disappointing or upsetting our kids — too afraid, say some discipline pros. "If a child never experiences the pain of frustration — of having to share a toy or wait their turn in line — or if they're never sad or disappointed, they won't develop psychological skills that are crucial for their future happiness," says Kindlon. So if your child's upset because a younger sibling got a different punishment, for example, it's okay to say "I understand that this seems unfair to you, and I'm sorry you're upset, but life isn't always fair."

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